A Stepdad's Christmas Gift

by Bobby Collins

© 2012

<NOTE: this true story is taken from our lesson book, Responsibility of A Lifetime.>

It was a common enough story. The young man had already fallen in love with 

the girl, they had been seeing each other for awhile, they had even made 

plans to get married. Their future looked perfect.

Then, not too long before their wedding, she told him she was pregnant. He 

was stunned. Not just about the unplanned pregnancy, but mostly because the 

two of them had not ... done anything yet. Both had agreed to wait until 

they were officially husband and wife. So, whose was the baby?! He knew it 

was not his. But she was turning to him to help her solve her problem.

His first thought was to save himself - just cut her loose, that was what 

his friends said. She could tell her family whatever she wanted. It was none 

of his business. She had gotten herself into this mess, let her get herself 

out. He had his whole life (not to mention the reputation of his family!) to 

think of.

But the more he thought about that, the more he realized he could not just 

leave her to face it alone. She was really special -- and he was really in 

love. Something about her touched his heart in a way he had never been 

touched before. And he was afraid he would never feel this way again if he 

let her go.

So, against all advice and common sense, he decided to stick around - at 

least long enough to help her get through the pregnancy. Some of her family 

(and most of her friends) had decided that she was a slut and did not 

deserve to have their friendship and help. One by one they turned away from 

her in disgust, some openly, some by just insisting they were constantly too 

busy to see her. Finally,  he was her only friend, her only support.

Of course, it meant more difficulties, since they had not planned on it. 

Neither of them had any money for a baby - they barely had enough for the 

two of them. And still, always in the back of his mind -- it was not his 

baby.

The birth was difficult, but he was there to help. He never left her side as 

she birthed someone elses baby. After the baby boy was born, his feelings 

for this girl were even stronger. Plus, since it was part of her, he had 

already started caring for her baby.

As the little boy grew by days, months, and years, the man never tried to 

say he was his dad, even though he felt like it more and more of the time.

So, this stepdad moved unofficially into the position of daddy to the little 

boy. He helped him when the baby took his very first steps. He taught the 

boy the important things in life:  how to fish, how to throw a ball, and how 

to spit without getting yourself wet. He showed him the beauty of a sky full 

of stars, a sunset over the lake, and a flower in the grass.

He also taught the little boy to know the difference between right and 

wrong, to be respectful of his elders, and to be fair when he played games 

with others. And he taught his stepson to be nice to ladies and girls and 

those littler than him.

The stepdad showed his wife's son what it means to be committed to someone, 

even though you might not be responsible for them legally. He loved the boy 

no matter how he acted. He never turned away from him.

He also demonstrated how a real man should love his wife - tenderly, 

unselfishly, and unconditionally. The boy saw his stepfather loving his 

mother in many ways: by speaking respectfully to her, by helping her with 

the household chores, by opening doors and holding chairs for her, and by 

giving her his full attention.

He showed his stepson how to work hard, but still make time for important 

details like the boy's sports and school events. He took his family to 

church to show them the importance of worship and gratitude for being part 

of a family. He laughed and he cried with the boy, and he helped him grow 

into a good man because a good man cared.

And when the young man had grown and was ready to leave home for a life of 

his own, the stepdad lost part of his heart. Even though the boy was not 

really his own. Because thats what stepparents do.

And because this unselfish man was willing to take on a family that was not 

really his; because he looked beyond a girl's shame and into her heart; and 

because he gave the best years of his life to love and guide and care for 

someone else's son ... because he took on the Responsibility of A Lifetime as a 

stepparent, his stepson - Jesus - passed on to us many of the lessons he 

learned from his stepdad, Joseph.

MORAL of the story:

Your stepchild may not turn out as perfect as Joseph's did, but every stepchild - even yours is as important to God as Joseph's was. Look for the good in your stepchild. Nurture that spark of divine. Bless him or her as though he or she was that Christmas stepchild of Joseph's. 

You don't have to be a Joseph - or a Mary - to be a vital part of your stepchild's development. Give your heart. Give your time. Give your mate all of you, and your stepchild will see and learn about love from you. You can be the most important contribution your stepchild receives.